 All throughout my life, I have learned how valuable female advice is for the following reasons: o I grew up around sisters o I attended a co-ed school o I frequently have a difficult time sealing the deal, so I ended up with a lot of female friends Whenever I make my move at the beginning of an adult dating relationship, my loyal gal pals are always there to help me out and make me realize how clueless I am. Counting on my guy buddies is just not as effective, because they are either too aggressive, or they turn out to be just as clueless as I am. So how have my lovely lady friends helped me in my adult dating activities through the years? Here are a few instances: I don’t trust myself to go shop for clothes alone. Women have a knack of dressing up well because they put a little more time and effort into their outfits. However, guys wear whatever’s available in trying to catch the attention of the ladies. My female shopping consultants help me figure out what look I can pull off, or they just pick out clothes they would like on guys. They’re also there to ask the condescending question, “Are you sure you’re going to wear that?” Every time I compose a rather questionable email or text message, I have an “editor” to proofread it. I frequently get the following reactions: - “Oh my, you have to take out half of this. She’ll never read a message this long.” - “You repeated the same thing quite a few times.” - “You sound too desperate.” - “You’re coming on too strong.” - “You have to sound a bit more casual.” This is an essential part of the whole process. I’m quite astounded at the amount of freaky emails my girl friends get from guys who clearly didn’t ask for female friend advice before hitting “send.” I’m sure you all know by now that the wrong gift can send the wrong message, and we clearly never expect how women react to certain things. Some examples are: giving clothes that have the wrong size and things that make it look like I expect her to cook and clean. There are times when I come across confusing stuff that I would never think of, and I have learned through my gal pals that there are a lot of things I say that can possibly upset a girl. I could be talking about Mt. Everest and she might think I’m calling her fat.
 The early stages of a new adult dating relationship are the best times because it’s packed with romantic shenanigans and you both still don’t know what to expect, which makes everything you do fun and exciting. However, this same unknown makes early phases of an adult dating relationship scary. That stage of being unsure is full of questions. And the more I think about these questions, the more it freaks me out. Here are a few things that scare the crap out of me at the start of an adult dating relationship: There will come a point where she will get used to it all, and then boredom is going to set in. Will I be able to overcome this? - At Some Point, She’ll Think I’m Coming on Too Strong
There is usually a lot of communication at the start, so we randomly text sweet nothings to each other. However, I sometimes over-analyze things so go over what I’ll be sending and think about how often I’d want to send two messages in a row. Do we have to exchange text messages everyday at first? I don’t want her to think I’m getting into much too quickly. - She’s Seeing Somebody Else
All’s fair in the beginning, even if she’s still seeing other people. So while we’re getting more into each other, I’m thinking about when we’re going to reach an “exclusive” point. Until then, I have no right to get mad if she’s seeing other dudes. It’s clearly a Catch-22: I want the girl I’m dating to like my friends, but it’s still in its early stages that she might be into one of them too. That’s honestly going to give me major paranoia. - I Did Something to Make Her Dislike Me
Early in the relationship, it’s very likely that a statement, or even a quip, can change the other person’s affection instantly. This usually happens when it takes too long for her to respond to texts or calls, or if she seems distant. So I generally analyze and think about what I might have said or done to make her not want to see me anymore. - She Just Wants to Be Friends
There is a period of time in the beginning when you walk the fine line between the “friends,” and “more than friends” stage. And when I go out on a date with one of their friends, it doesn’t help when women tell me she just wanted to spend time as friends and see what it was like. The early stages of an adult dating relationship are so sensitive that there are loads of things to worry about. You’re objective is to get through all the obstacles and bumps to reach a point where it’s smooth sailing. However, it’s never that easy.
 I attended a European conference just a while back, and it explored the relationship between advertising and the Internet, specifically in social media. One of the speakers said that the Internet has started the largest cultural shift since the industrial revolution. During the conference, I wondered how much the Internet has changed the world of adult dating, and then I moved on thinking about the other entities or inventions that changed adult dating through time. Here are a few things I’ve come up with: There were a few movements that lessened the influence of religion, and empowered scientific shifts in society. For instance, Darwin’s theory questioned the belief that women were created from a guy’s rib. It essentially turned us into animals; and suggested that we choose partners a lean and athletic partner, or one with a fat bank account by unconscious natural selection. Even the first words uttered on the first telephone were “date-like.” To his assistant, Alexander Bell said, “Mr. Watson, come here. I want to see you.” Okay, he wasn’t really asking him out on a date, but he would eventually shape the process of how we date: Getting a phone number became an integral part of the adult dating ritual. It was written on a piece of paper back in the old days, but now the digits are just conveniently punched in a cell phone. The Free Love movement not only sparked sexual liberation, but it was also originally a rejection of marriage. It paved the way to modern times: decades of perversion and excess followed after the conservative 50s. Cars are adult dating modes of transport: a cool ride makes a guy more attractive. Back in high school, cars helped us pick up and move around with our dates, and it provided a convenient place to make out. A fatal disease sobered up society after the unrestrained 70s. The best way to stay away from this deadly disease is through abstinence from sex. AIDS instantly put out the intoxicating flames of the 60s with a lethal reality. These days, a lot of people can meet in cyberspace, making the world much smaller. I’m pretty sure the Internet has saved a lot of long-distance adult dating relationships that would’ve died before Skype, Facetime, and email, but it has also made things a little more complicated when it comes to communication in dating. We a have whole lot of choices. Doing an online search can reveal deal-breakers even before getting to know the person, and you can stalk someone if you want to. We have yet to see all the changes, but I think this is the biggest change in adult dating since secularism.
 You can ask any girl: It’s pretty damn almost impossible to just quit a guy cold turkey when things don’t work out. But if you handle that post-split period the right way, you can actually get over the guy faster, move on sooner, and cut back on the gallons of Ben and Jerry’s you’ll stuff your face with. Regardless of what caused the end of the hookup, a split leaves women with a huge desire to fill in that void left behind. So what’s the easiest way to fill this void? Let me give you a hint: It starts with E and ends with X. But like we said, there are ways to avoid getting ensnared to this trap and move on with your life. Here are a few tips that will make it easy for you to get back on track, and find someone else who is way better than your ex hookup. - Follow the 30-minute rule
You might be thinking that the reason you want to know if he’s free one Friday evening is because you really miss him and would like to catch up, but it’s very likely you’re just 1) lonely; or b) bored, and are going for him because he used to be your partner on date night. If you step on the breaks and analyze this “pull,” you can tell the difference between genuine desire from temporary, emotionally charged desire. The best way to do this is to use the 30-minute rule: When the urge to contact him hits you, do something to shift your focus. It may sound too simple, but odds are you’ll be less inclined to contact him after half an hour of focusing your attention to something else. You’ll soon find out that the urge is only fleeting. - Identify what sets you off
A lot of women have certain triggers things that set them off and make them start thinking about him. Give yourself a few minutes to think back and recognize the things that cause you to feel terrible over the split, and then take action. This might mean you have to block his Facebook posts for a while, or temporarily keeping stuff that reminds you of him deep in your closet. When you’re fresh out of a breakup, you’re still pretty vulnerable to that emotional tug, so getting rid of all the reminders can be of huge help in getting over that initial hump. Think of the top three reasons why you’re better off without him. It’s very tempting to view your relationship in an idealistic perspective, but it’s crucial to realistically think about why you’re better off without him. Once you see the bigger picture, you will be able to quell those urges to stick to a guy that’s not right for you just because it makes you feel comfortable, and prevent them from coming back.
 Don’t even think about asking your man how he feels about your future as an adult dating couple that kind of conversation just freaks them out. What you can do instead is know how to read the signals. If you’ve observed any of the following distinguishing behaviors, then it’s conclusive: He thinks you’re wife material. He wants to spend the holidays with you wherever it may be. If he insists on foregoing his childhood traditions to be with you and your family at your folks’ place, or maybe skip family time altogether to go on a trip with you, this means he wants to create your own traditions and memories with you. He asks you to attend his best friend’s wedding with him without being pushed. For guys, watching their close buddy walk the aisle is an important occasion. And he wouldn’t want to share this moment with just any other girl, especially since a lot of people are going to ask if you two are next. So if you’re adult dating and your man invited you to go with him and seems excited at the prospect, chances are he envisions the possibility of you walking down the aisle with him in the future. He mentions the phrase “our kids.” Most guys have difficulty thinking about starting a family until they meet the right girl. So saying something like, “I won’t let our kids be that disrespectful” means he’s not only thinking about it, he’s expecting it to happen. And the thought doesn’t give him the urge to run and hide in his man cave. He’s cried in front of you. Regardless if he shed tears while watching “I am Sam” or because his dog passed away, he feels he can be vulnerable in your presence. Shedding his macho armor shows he can be himself when he’s around you. If he doesn’t even try to hide it or act ashamed, this means he has envisioned you going through good and bad times by his side. He also wants to be sure you’re alright with his display of not-so-manly moments. He’s very responsible about finances. Guys would like to be in a good plays financially before settling down. So if he seems more focused on getting that promotion, fattening up his savings account, and opening a 401k account, these are signs that he wants to be able to support a family in the future and that includes you.
If an adult dating relationship ends, it’s apparent that there were issues, and it’s quite hard to imagine things going more smoothly the second time. This rings especially true if it’s a bad breakup. Shouldn’t two people learn from the experience and just move on? According to experts, this is not necessary. Yes, there may have been problems, but a serious timeout can make the couple’s adult dating relationship stronger in the long run if those problems are addressed and resolved. With that being said, there are certain rules that can help increase your odds of success in the second round. It’s tough to slam on the breaks when you’re trying to make up for lost time, while enjoying the familiarity of being together. But whether you admit it or not, you’ve both changed, and you need to take time to get reacquainted. Relationship therapists say you should try to look at it as a brand new relationship. While you can’t wait to quickly move forward to cozy weekend mornings in bed, it is crucial to stop and take a moment to think about why you want to be back together just like you would do when you’re adult dating any guy. Try to be honest with yourself: If the idea of going to a party alone terrifies you, then you’re most likely just looking for a quick fix for your loneliness, and not your ex. Sooner or later, you’ll be having that conversation where you’ll be telling him, “We need to talk.” But if you can imagine yourself with him backpacking across South America next summer and him feeling the same way, you’re heart is probably in the right place. You broke up for a reason. And if you and your ex are planning on getting back together, you need to face the things that went wrong the first time if you want to move forward. And then let it all go, once and for all. Try working on the details of what you want to do differently the second time in such a way that isn’t the least bit threatening. Be positive in your statements and say things like “It would make me happy if…” with him doing the same, and then really put them in action. Pick your battles when it comes to your past issues or you’ll pick up where you left off. One favorable aspect of breaking up once is it probably made you stronger. After splitting up with someone, we learn how to live our own lives without them. This makes you gain a new perspective that makes you better this time around. This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.
 We all make sacrifices for love, and even women do it when they hookup with guys. So which of you girls are guilty of doing any of these? So which part of using-hot-wax-to-tear-out-all-those-little-hairs-out-of-the-vajayjay sounds like a terrific idea? Going through a painful session of a Brazilian wax treatment is nothing short of cruel and unusual punishment, yet a lot of women voluntarily subject themselves to this kind of torture when they hookup with guys because then know how men love the bare look. - Running Water When You Pee
It is just embarrassing, but girls turn the faucet on because, heaven forbid, their men hear their streams hit the toilet bowl water. I know it totally makes no sense to try and pretend girls don’t do all the normal things guys do in the bathroom, but they cover their tracks anyway. - Killing Yourself in Spin Class
Yes, we all know that endorphin-pumping exercise rocks, but honestly, if the world was made up of purely women, would a 60-minute, 500-calorie, sweat-and-pain-fest exist? Yeah, I didn’t think so. Admittedly, girls love to strut their stuff in sexy sky-high heels. But after walking around in them for a couple of hours, those stilettos can betray them big time. Yes, it’s easy to change into those ingenious fold-up ballet flats tucked in your clutch, but then he might discover that your legs don’t go on forever. - Buying Gifts for His Relatives
Your man may forget his mom’s birthday, but of course you don’t, which makes you responsible for making sure she gets a present. Have you even heard a guy complain of much Christmas shopping he has to do? I thought so. Women take charge of gift shopping because they just can’t trust that their guys can get it done. - Spending a Night at His Place, in the Middle of Nowhere, on a Weekday
When girls hookup with guys overnight, he only other thing that’s worse than getting ready for work is having to stuff just the bare essentials in an overnight bag. You don’t have your favorite hairdryer, no variety of outfits to choose from, and no shoe versus boot choices. Boo. It’s terribly wrong, but whether you needed more foreplay or just weren’t in the mood, women often fake orgasms. They usually fake it than risk hurting their man’s feelings or cause awkwardness. Yes, girls should be getting off, but when they can’t, they sometimes try to indulge their inner drama queens and put on a nice performance. This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.
 There’s he’s into you, and then there’s he’s totally crazy about you. There are little things that can tip a man over the edge. Hence, we ask ourselves this baffling question: Is there a certain event that can make a guy decide that he’s suddenly in love with her? The answer may not be clear, but there are a few general guidelines to find out. When it all comes down to it, men have four primal relationship desires that are easily sated by your tiniest moves when you hookup. We have experts explain how this works so you can have these insights to use when you feel your guy is at the brink. The Desire to Be Protective Protecting you from harm makes a man feel studly, which in turn makes him feel good. But this doesn’t mean you have to act helpless when you’re around him. Just letting him see your vulnerable side can bring him closer to you because it triggers his instincts to look after you. So give him opportunities to take charge, and thank him after. When you make a guy associate his feelings of being Superman, he’ll definitely want to hookup. These little things can draw out his heroic side. The Desire to Have Freedom Even guys who are emotionally healthy would want assurance that their identities will remain the same after they’ve coupled up. When you make it clear that you don’t expect him to change, he will feel that you genuinely understand him and not seem as a threat to his sense of self. This will leave him with a strong enough foundation to commit. The Desire to Shine He may be cocky, but he is still insecure in more ways than one. Keep in mind that guys need to know they are appreciated and respected. So when being around you boosts his self-esteem, both in himself and in the eyes of other people, he will naturally want to hookup with you. The Desire for Comfort The process of falling in love involves developing attachment to a person, which happens when the love hormone oxytocin floods the brain. You can unleash this by making him feel that you are just in sync with each other. When he feels so comfortable being with you that he stops thinking about your relationship because he just simply enjoys it, he’ll find his way going into love territory.
 So you’ve been adult dating for quite a while now and realized you’ve finally met Mr. Right, making everything seem damn near perfect. However, there are two little problems: Momma Right and Poppa Right. To put it simply, they don’t like you, and they’re not exactly reluctant to show it. Not only is it an unpleasant experience for you when you spend time with them, but you may also worry about the influence of their disapproval on your man’s feelings towards you. How do you get along so it won’t be freakin’ awkward? Here’s a helpful guideline to follow in handling this kind of situation with his parents. Know Where They’re Coming From You know that you’re very likeable, so how can somebody not love you? According to experts, the most likely reason is fear. His parents have an innate protective instinct to shut out any “intruders” that invade their family. Another issue could be jealousy, with the mom feeling that she’s being replaced. So to reassure her she’s still number one in his life, ask her for some tips on your man, like how to cook his favorite meals. Don’t Try to Be Best Friends You don’t need to be chummy with his folks; you just have to get along with them. So if you seem too eager to please, you’ll come off as insincere and ass-kissy. But on the other hand, you shouldn’t be in awe of them, and avoid the urge to create a familial relationship, because his folks are still essentially strangers. The best thing to do is to think of them as peers, and not superiors. This way you’ll feel more comfortable and really be yourself. Make It Clear You Care About Your Man Of course, parents always look after the welfare of their child, so letting them know you won’t break his heart while in an adult dating relationship with their son needs to be bolstered. Naturally, they wouldn’t want to connect with you if they know you’re not there to stay. Show some affection or share stories about how he made you laugh. Once they discern your feelings are genuine, they’ll start to trust you. Last Resort After you’ve pulled all the stops and his folks are still being evil, stand up for yourself. If you decide not to be pushed around, they’ll start showing the respect that you deserve. So the next time they are rude to you, try saying, “Look, I don’t expect you to love me, but it would be nice if you we could at least be civil.” It would be best to lay it down now, because if you decide to tie the knot with him, it’s only going to get worse.
 Physical sensations become less thrilling when you repeat a routine too often, even if it seems pretty daring. That is why many adult dating partners get bored and break up with each other after quite some time because adult sex is not as hot as they started. So you should occasionally, go a little further and the sensations will be extra-powerful and blissful. And, you get the thrill of doing something wicked. Now, think of the naughtiest trick you’ve ever tried in bed and try it tonight! But fear not if you cant think of any. Because here, we give you the naughtiest adult sex tips and moves that you can try tonight. Bring it on. Try A Bit Of Bondage – Getting tied up instantly boosts the sexual energy, because it brings in the element of vulnerability. When you’re bound, you’re completely at the mercy of your partner’s urges, which is exciting. Plus, you can focus entirely on being pleasured, since you’re not able to reciprocate. Give Him A Peep Show – Much of arousal is driven by what we see–especially for guys. Many men love watching a woman get turned on. It lets them know what gets her going and makes them feel like they’re doing something illicit by just sitting back and enjoying the show. And, it’s great for women, too. Seeing how a guy reacts to watching you pumps up your desire. Handle His Package – Usually for foreplay, you touch him so he’s hard, but stroking him until he climaxes is rarely the main event. Once a couple start having sex, hand jobs often stop. Manhandling him will show your dirty desire to take charge. So the next time he’s on the phone, come up behind him, unzip his pants, and go to work. Doing something so naughty while the person on the other end of the phone has no idea ups the wicked factor and makes everything feel more intense. Test-Drive Twisty, Torrid Positions – Nothing screams naughty like providing a view and finding new angles neither of you is used to. One tip: Do it in various parts of your house, because it’ll force you to accommodate your positions to the different obstacles. Plan A Sneak Attack – Ambushing your guy turns you into a total sex vixen and makes him feel extremely wanted. When you’re not expecting something, your senses are heightened, making it easier to enjoy every touch during a hook-up. Guys expect morning sex before they get out of bed, so he’ll be totally shocked if you jump him when he gets out of the shower. Slip into the bathroom, and position yourself naked on the sink, so he’s surprised by the stunning scenery when he pulls aside the curtain. Then, have him stand in front of you, so you can wrap your legs around him. Try these tips tonight and enjoy a mind blowing adult sex! Enjoy! This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.
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All throughout my life, I have learned how valuable female advice is for the following reasons: o I grew up around sisters o I attended a co-ed school o I frequently have a difficult time sealing the deal, so I ended up with a lot of female friends Whenever I make my move at the beginning of an adult dating relationship, my loyal gal pals are always there to help me out and make me realize how clueless I am. Counting on my guy buddies is just not as effective, because they are either too aggressive, or they turn out to be just as clueless as I am. So how have my lovely lady friends helped me in my adult dating activities through the years? Here are a few instances: 
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